Whether you’re in a vanilla relationship, a BDSM relationship, or a card-carrying member of The Scene™, you absolutely need to know about consent. You need to know this whether you’re a top or a bottom.
If you’re a top, you need to know what hearing “no” means. If you’re a bottom, you need to understand what saying “yes” means. And, of course, vice versa.
But knowing about consent, or practicing consent, isn’t going to stop abuse. The protocols of consent have nothing to do with the causes of abuse.
You will never stop speeding by putting up speed limit signs.
